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10 Things you should Know and Do before you are 40

Monday, April 9th, 2012


 
As I approach my 40th Birthday I started thinking about the things that were important to me.  While it was difficult to do, I was able to pick out a Top 10 Things to Know and Do before 40.  These are all simple and practical steps and truthfully can be applicable to any age.  Here we go:
 
1. Know Yourself – When I say “Know Yourself” I am referring to your strengths and weaknesses.  We all have them and just like fingerprints that vary for each one of us.  Knowing your strengths will help yo to know where to focus your efforts and opportunities to excel.  It will help you achieve your goals and attain personal satisfaction.  On the other hand, knowing your weaknesses can be equally if not more beneficial.  When you know your weakness and even more important, willing to admit your weaknesses, you have a foundation for growth.  You can create a list of areas to spend as much time getting better at as you do on the things that come natural.  You can also evaluate if the weakness is something you should avoid and allow others to accomplish.
 
2. Settle Your Family Life – This is mostly for the married couples but truthfully can exist with parents, children or any other relatives.  Recognize issues that may exist, things that are lingering and unaddressed.  It is important to get them out in the open and “handled”.  One thing we are not promised in life is time and once someone is gone the opportunity to set things right goes as well, yet the guilt of not doing so can last forever.  Relationships, especially marriages, require constant work and nurturing.
 
3. Determine Your Priorities – It is said that every seven years we change as people and everything from out tastes, likes & dislikes, ambitions and priorities.  It is vital to keep track of your priorities, write them down and occasionally review them for any changes, additions or subtractions.  This will help you keep focused on what is important and worth giving your time to.
 
4. Develop Your Philosophy – How do you define your life?  What is your vision for your future? It is critical to know what you believe in, what/who you are willing to die for and what things in your life are optional.  Alexander Hamilton said, “Those who stand for nothing fall for anything”.
 
5. Get Physically Fit – As we get older and absorbed in our careers, goals, lives, etc. one of the areas we often overlook is our health.  This has become a VITAL area for me over the past few years and a journey that in a short time has taught me more about myself than anything before it.  Remember, don’t give up your “health” in an effort to gain “wealth”.  A strong body leads to a strong mind which leads to a strong future.
 
6. Learn Your Trade – Always be a student of your trade.  The day you think you cannot learn anything else  about your trade is the day you need to get out of it.  To be most successful at your trade; learn, earn and return.  the biggest key is to remember to give back more than you receive.
 
7. Pay The Price – Success cannot be accomplished without sacrifice.  You have heard it all, “Nothing in life is easy” “Anything worth having is worth working for” These and similar statements are profound and should not be taken lightly.  Your “ah hah” moment with this one is when you realize and are willing to accept that you may sacrifice and not see success but trust that those who follow will reap the success of your sacrifice.  Some would call it a characteristic of leadership.
 
8. Develop Solid Relationships – In the day and age of social media the word “friend” has a whole new meaning.  Solid relationships are important because life’s greatest experiences involve people.  I have had some of the best times of my life and created unforgettable memories with the guys I have developed solid relationships with, a brotherhood if you will.  Take a moment and review your social media “friends”.  How many do you have a solid relationship with?
 
9. Prepare For The Future – By nature we always want the biggest and best.  This is very prevalent in the Event Industry.  Often we are judged by the equipment we carry, the amount of lights we have, how many songs in our library, etc.  While these things are vital to our craft, in the grand scheme of life how important are they?  Consider living life in such a way that you have options later on when you have played that last song.  Consider purchasing the “second best” and saving the difference for retirement.
 
10. Find Purpose In You Life – True success comes from knowing and executing your purpose in life.  Never stop growing to your maximum potential and continue sewing seeds, even if only others down the line benefit from them.
 
The first Quarter of 2012 has already come to an end and no matter if you are 40, 20 or 60 do a self evaluation of these 10 things and see where you stand with them.  You may find that you need to work on some and also be right where you need to be with others.
 
Remember…You’re either Green and Growing or Ripe and Rotting!!!

The “Science” and “Art” of Communication Part 1

Friday, March 23rd, 2012

The “Science” and “Art” of Communication
 
Think of a bottle of wine. Sometimes you can have good wine in a bad bottle. You look at the bottle and it is not that impressive but it tastes wonderful. Sometimes you have a bottle that looks terrific but the wine inside is not so good. The goal in effective communication should be to have both substance and style.
 
Science is built on practices, rules and procedures while art is more of an inherent creative process. The best communicators will learn to combine the two. They will take the best of each and create an effective outcome. Science without art can make communication seem sterile while art without science can make communication very chaotic. Your goal should be to combine creativity with discipline to create the most favorable outcome.
 
Let’s look at some examples…
 
The perfect “right down the middle” would be the late Steve Jobs. People would hang on his every word. That was because he would always couple the good science of technology and products and talk about them in an informative, factual way with his own passion and enthusiasm about the design and end user effectiveness.
 
A good example of the Science right but the art wrong would be the prototypical college professor that goes on and on, for example the character that Ben Stein played in the movie Ferris Bueller’s Day Off. A great example of someone who disseminates the information and then strives for involvement, “Anyone, anyone, anyone?” This individual has the information down but has diminished the impact because of poor delivery and lack of creativity.
 
A good example of getting the Art right but the science wrong, are those who tend to be very passionate. You find yourself connecting with their enthusiasm but in the find yourself asking, “What was that all about?” You knew they felt strongly about something, you are just not sure what about.
 
So what is “Winning Communication”?
 
George Bernard Shaw said, “The problem with communication is the illusion it has been accomplished.” The potential for bad communication is of great. Especially in the fast paced word of the Internet, mobile devices and busy lives we lead. I remember some years ago my son, as we walked into a restaurant, read a sign on a chalkboard the read “Fish – All You Can Eat”. He looked at me and said, “Oh No! All you can eat is fish???” This is a perfect example of how, even just subtlety, misinterpreting communication one can come to the wrong conclusion.
 
Therefore, “Winning Communication” can be defined as being heard and understood. For “Winning Communication” to take place your message needs to not only be heard (or read) but the intended effect of that communication also needs to be achieved.
 
Keep in mind communication is in fact “response you get”. How effective you are communicating is more about what is “heard” than what is “said”. Often times we find ourselves saying, “But this is what I said” but if the person who responded didn’t “get it” then the responsibility of poor communication falls onto the person who said it.
 
Stay tuned for Part Two when I will share some of the wrong ways to avoid when communicating and the “C”s of communication.

The 5 Steps to More Efficient Learning

Tuesday, March 20th, 2012

The 5 Steps to More Efficient Learning
 
1. Repetition – read/watch the material until you gain:

2. Familiarity – when you become familiar with the subject matter, you will gain:

3. Confidence – once you’ve achieved confidence, you are prepared to take the appropriate:

4. Action – and action, my friends, yields:

5. Results -measure your results so that you may improve them, and then repeat the process!
 
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When we learn more, we can DO more, accomplish more.  Apply these simple steps and watch your business soar to new heights.

Exercise

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

Exercise is one of the best tools to help combat depression. Leading an active, physical lifestyle will help you to alleviate stress and increase your endorphin levels. The next time you feel sad, instead of wallowing in your depression, or engaging in negative activities like drinking alcohol or overeating, try going for a nice long walk or bike ride, and you will be amazed at how much better you feel.
 

 

Gleeson / Rhodes Wedding

Saturday, March 26th, 2011

I enjoyed another great event last night!  Tanya and Jake were married on what might have been the most beautiful day of the week at Palm Valley Gardens.  Immediately following the ceremony the photographer took a group photo which was something I have never seen done that way before but it seemed to work out really well and the guests were fired up right away!  The reception was on the back patio next to a large, beautiful pond.  I truly believe Tanya achieved her goal, a quaint southern style wedding.  We had a blast when the dancing started and everyone was on the floor from the flower girls to the grandparents.  Cheryl and the staff from Forever Sacred Events did an amazing job coordinating everything and helping keep things on track!  Check out Tanya’s dancing shoes in the video!



Weintz / Williams Wedding

Sunday, March 13th, 2011

Another successful night at the Casa Monica Hotel! It was almost like deja vu working with the staff of Kris Graham Photography except we were outside by the pool this time in Sultan’s Pavilion . It was a beautiful night, weather was a little cold but beautiful out! It did not take long for Christopher and Lisa’s family & friends to get going. We had a great time under the stars tonight in St. Augustine and the wedding cake was one of the coolest I have ever seen, a scale model of the University of Oklahoma Football Stadium. VERY Cool! Congratulations Christopher and Lisa!!! Thank you for letting me be a part of your special day!


Adams / Guiterman Wedding

Sunday, March 6th, 2011

I had a complete BLAST tonight with Bree & Justin’s St. Augustine Wedding. From the minute the first song came on their friends and family were up dancing.  The Young to the Young at Heart were all on the dance floor showing off their moves. Everything was held together and executed to perfection, as always by Sarah Grace, and the staff of The Big Event.

The White Room Staff did an amazing job with the food and atmosphere of the room. It was awesome to work with Jay and Alison again from Life and Love Studio Photography and Videography. They are a sweet and I am confident their photos will be excellent. It gives me great pleasure to be a DJ in Jacksonville and St. Augustine and to this disc jockey nothing is more rewarding than an ecstatic couple at the end of the night like Bree & Justin. Thank you guys for letting me be a part of your very special day!



Eastern Pennsylvania Mobile Entertainers Network (EPMEN) Wedding Marketing and Entertainment Conference

Friday, March 4th, 2011
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I have been invited to be a guest speaker at the first Eastern Pennsylvania Mobile Entertainers Network (EPMEN) Wedding Marketing and Entertainment Conference May 16th, 2011, in Allentown,Pennsylvania.

The event, sponsored by the National Association of Mobile Entertainers, will feature top name presenters from both the wedding marketing and entertainment industries and cover topics such as effective website design, social media marketing, performance skills, and improved sales techniques. There will also be a separate demonstration room and exhibit hall featuring a wide variety of vendors.

EP men The Keynote Addresses include:

Alan Berg, VP The Knot

Market Intelligence How Do I Know If My Ads Are Working?

Mike Walter, Elite Entertainment

How To Run Your Multi-Op… From the Guy Who Wrote the Book On It!

Additional Conference Speakers Include:

Speakers

Lorenzo Araneo – Adam Weitz – “Big Daddy” Sean McKee – Jerry Bazata – J. Hatch – Jeff Meuzelaar – Jason Jani – Keith Alan - Jason Weldon – Stacy Zemon – Johnny Rozz – David Hanscom – Mike Wieder

Carver / Tormoen Wedding

Sunday, February 27th, 2011

I had a great time last night with David & Christina’s wedding. We were at the beautiful Casa Monica Hotel in St. Augustine and the wedding kicked off with perfectly planned and executed introduction themed to U2. Christina’s father gave an amazing welcome and tribute to his daughter. It was a blast, as
always, working with Kris & Kate from Kris Graham Photography and Erin and the amazing staff at Casa Monica. Stay tuned for Part 2 when I show off some great photos from Kris Graham Photography.



Sometimes you just have to dare to risk public criticism!

Thursday, July 15th, 2010

I have made it my goal to help the Mobile DJ and Event Industry lose 1,000 pounds, including myself!
 
Several people have commented saying, “You don’t look like I need to lose weight”. Now, while I want to believe that most of the people who said that were only being nice, the fact of the matter is that I have worked hard for several years now trying to hide the truth about my weight.
 
Knowing that 40 is only a few years around the corner I have come to realize that if I don’t do something about my health and weight I will not be around to enjoy seeing my children get married or holding a grandchild in my arms. I won’t be able to live out the “golden years” I work so hard on now to have.
 
The first step is to overcome the fear of public criticism and admit I have a problem that needs to be fixed. I have decided to put together series of radical advertisements in hopes to accomplish 2 things:
 
1. To expose my weight issues to the world in a tactful and respectful way so that others will see that I truly do have some issues to work on. I do not in anyway want to offend anyone and will not say something about another person that I can’t say about myself.

2. To be a leader to others who may be in my very same position I am in and feel like they are alone.
 
The truth is you are not alone. 1 out of every 3 Mobile DJs is overweight or obese. The statistics are not too much better in the Event Industry as a whole. I hope that by taking the first step others will join me so that we can support and encourage one another to achieve our individual and collective goals together. Just by adding two or three people to your challenge will help you be accountable and increases your odds of success beyond belief.
 
I want to thank those who have already joined me and welcome any others that would like to be a part of the team. I can promise respect, love and support to every member of this team. Failure will not be an option and we will have a blast together!
 
Are you ready to join us?
 
Join The Challenge
 

Photo Updated 3/1/2012
 
*Results will vary.